Mental Illness Resources

Are you here because you need help?

I have not provided links to suicide hotlines, because personally I find them unhelpful and do not want to participate in that kind of lip service.

Instead, this is my advice.

If you are currently in acute crisis please try and treat yourself as if you are someone you love: eat, sleep and look after yourself until your condition becomes less acute. It’s important to give your body the rest and resources it needs to recover, even if it does not feel like it is working. Seek medical attention if you feel it is appropriate.

Try and avoid harmful coping mechanisms as, although they may feel effective in the short-term, they are a detriment to your well-being and will make recovery more challenging.

After riding out your acute crisis, research coping mechanisms and build a plan for yourself. Mend the roof while the sun is shining.

Please remember that I am not a trained mental health professional and am unqualified to give advice. Whilst I am happy to speak in relation to my lived experiences, I cannot take personal responsibility for anyone’s mental health.

Curated Resources

I have created this page in response to the emails I receive by people who have been affected by the content of my blogs or talks. One of the reasons I have created this list is because there is much literature regarding mental health that is stigmatizing, which can make sorting through such materials distressing. This list can be a shortcut, of sorts, for those who may be at the beginning of their journey. It is the result of trial, error and crowdsourcing from online communities.

If there are any resources you think would improve this list, or have issues of access, please contact me.

Resources for Borderline Personality Disorder

Books

Borderline Personality Disorder: A Complete BPD Guide for Managing Your Emotions and Improving Your Relationships by Judy Dyer

The Borderline Personality Disorder Survival Guide: Everything You Need to Know About Living with BPD by Alex Chapman and Kim Gratz

The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook: Practical DBT Exercises for Learning Mindfulness, Interpersonal Effectiveness, Emotion Regulation, and Distress Tolerance by Matthew McKay

Loving Someone with Borderline Personality Disorder: How to Keep Out-of-Control Emotions from Destroying Your Relationship by Shari Y. Manning and Marsha M. Linehan

Pop Psychology and Lived Experience Articles

7 Things People with Borderline Personality Disorder Want You to Know

What Is Splitting in Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)?

Please Stop Using My Mental Illness to Fulfil Your Fantasy

Why Are Borderlines Attracted to Narcissists?

The Emotional Vulnerability of Borderline Personality Disorder

Peer Reviewed Articles

Interpersonal Functioning in Borderline Personality Disorder Traits: A Social Media Perspective

Resources for Dangerous Relationship Dynamics and Abuse

Books

Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft

Living with the Dominator by Pat Craven

Pop Psychology and Lived Experience Articles

8 Signs Your Relationship Is Really Just a String of Manipulative Love Bombs

The gender wars of household chores: a feminist comic

Coercive control: ‘I was 16 and thought it was normal’

Steps to recovering from co-dependency

How to Recognise If You Have Relationship OCD

How Do You Develop Whole Object Relations as an Adult?

Hypersexuality and Abuse: Thread and Video